Here’s my perspective on all the guys who are “not ready yet” to propose:
Well, why aren’t you? You say you’re “waiting for the right time”. I think there is no right time- every moment is the right time IF it’s the right person. To me, it seems like it’s about the person, not the time. So when you’re not ready, when you’re waiting, you’re actually waiting to see if you can find somebody better, somebody you’ll love more, the one. And when you don’t, you decide you’re ready, and settle for the girl who’s laid her heart on your floor and let you stomp on it for so long.
You can just I’m wrong, but I’m not. It’s a different thing making the perfect plans for proposing and waiting for that so you can make it special. It’s different when you’re not ready. If you’re not ready now, chances are you’ll never be. You’ll just be pushing yourself to get married to xyz after years or months, just because you never found that girl whom you’d wanna marry the very next day.
And if you’ll still argue, well, why are you waiting for tomorrow? Tell me? If you know you wanna marry her “someday”, why not let her know officially NOW? How do you know you’ll get another chance to tell her how you feel? How do you know you’ll have tomorrow? Can you guarantee something won’t happen the next moment?
I’m not trying to bash you, boys. I’m myself stuck in a situation where he’s not ready to propose, and I’m trying to understand. I could really use some answers, this has been tearing me upside down. I feel like I’m not the one he wants. Any thoughts anyone?