Here’s my perspective on all the guys who are “not ready yet” to propose:

Well, why aren’t you? You say you’re “waiting for the right time”. I think there is no right time- every moment is the right time IF it’s the right person. To me, it seems like it’s about the person, not the time. So when you’re not ready, when you’re waiting, you’re actually waiting to see if you can find somebody better, somebody you’ll love more, the one. And when you don’t, you decide you’re ready, and settle for the girl who’s laid her heart on your floor and let you stomp on it for so long.

You can just I’m wrong, but I’m not. It’s a different thing making the perfect plans for proposing and waiting for that so you can make it special. It’s different when you’re not ready. If you’re not ready now, chances are you’ll never be. You’ll just be pushing yourself to get married to xyz after years or months, just because you never found that girl whom you’d wanna marry the very next day.

And if you’ll still argue, well, why are you waiting for tomorrow? Tell me? If you know you wanna marry her “someday”, why not let her know officially NOW? How do you know you’ll get another chance to tell her how you feel? How do you know you’ll have tomorrow? Can you guarantee something won’t happen the next moment?

I’m not trying to bash you, boys. I’m myself stuck in a situation where he’s not ready to propose, and I’m trying to understand. I could really use some answers, this has been tearing me upside down. I feel like I’m not the one he wants. Any thoughts anyone?

Here’s my perspective on all the guys who are “not ready yet” to propose:

Well, why aren’t you? You say you’re “waiting for the right time”. I think there is no right time- every moment is the right time IF it’s the right person. To me, it seems like it’s about the person, not the time. So when you’re not ready, when you’re waiting, you’re actually waiting to see if you can find somebody better, somebody you’ll love more, the one. And when you don’t, you decide you’re ready, and settle for the girl who’s laid her heart on your floor and let you stomp on it for so long.

You can just I’m wrong, but I’m not. It’s a different thing making the perfect plans for proposing and waiting for that so you can make it special. It’s different when you’re not ready. If you’re not ready now, chances are you’ll never be. You’ll just be pushing yourself to get married to xyz after years or months, just because you never found that girl whom you’d wanna marry the very next day.

And if you’ll still argue, well, why are you waiting for tomorrow? Tell me? If you know you wanna marry her “someday”, why not let her know officially NOW? How do you know you’ll get another chance to tell her how you feel? How do you know you’ll have tomorrow? Can you guarantee something won’t happen the next moment?

I’m not trying to bash you, boys. I’m myself stuck in a situation where he’s not ready to propose, and I’m trying to understand. I could really use some answers, this has been tearing me upside down. I feel like I’m not the one he wants. Any thoughts anyone?

I hate this Indian custom of arranged marriage in which boys visit girl’s house, see the girl, give her hope and then later reject her.

Really? This recently happened to one of the closest persons in my life. The girl is intelligent, modern, nice, well-mannered, can sing well, has a great heart and is planning to work with blind kids.

And the criteria she got rejected on? Her height. WTF! So a person’s height, something that isn’t under that person’s control, matters more than her heart, than the kind of person she is?

Even then, maybe the guy didn’t like her, he had every right to reject her then. But WHY GIVE HOPE? Why ask her about her thoughts on registry marriage? Why say he’d visit her home? Why admire her and ask like he really likes her? Why not reject her then and there if height had been the qualification all along?

I am a girl. I’m only 16 but I can understand how HUMILIATING AND HEART-BREAKING this is.

And that made me realize- THIS CUSTOM NEEDS TO CHANGE. WE NEED A BETTER INDIA, WHERE GIRLS WOULD BE TREATED WITH MORE RESPECT. THE BOYS HAVE NO RIGHT TO INSULT A GIRL. 

If I meet the boy, I am going to slap him in that pretty face. Yes, he is 30 years older than me, but I measure people by the work they do, not by their age. A CHEAP PERSON LIKE THIS HAS NO RESPECT IN MY HEART.

If you are reading this people, PLEASE TREAT A GIRL WITH RESPECT!! THIS CUSTOM MUST CHANGE. IT’S A GREAT INSULT TO THE GIRLS.

I FOR ONCE PROTEST AGAINST THIS. I WILL NEVER DRESS UP AND SIT FOR A BOY LIKE THIS, I’D RATHER REMAIN UNMARRIED.